BY THE WINDOW: Why the Kayfabe on Good Ideas – The Covid Conundrum

Good ideas are not partisan. In a mature, freethinking society, good ideas should operate as currency for progress. Instead what seems to be transpiring is a sort of gamification of ideas by staunch adherents to the polarity of left versus right politics. Frankly it has gotten plain ridiculous. Over the past two years, conversation in the area of healthcare, civic discourse, human/civil rights, culture and spirituality have turned into the ropes in the ever gestating tug-of-wars between the perceived right and left. Personally, certain acquaintances and family members have pretty much been relegated to occasional contact category. While most people … Continue reading BY THE WINDOW: Why the Kayfabe on Good Ideas – The Covid Conundrum

ON THE SOFA: Can You Afford Your Friends?

I will never forget the pastor in a Brooklyn church who uttered the words: “Your friends are God’s apology for your family.” At some point in our childhood we come across people whom we deem fit to allow into our space because they keep us comfortable or make us comfortable. They take the role of the absent or non-existent sibling as we make our way through kindergarten or elementary school. Friendship at this stage is managed by joy markers. We often laugh together, fight together, play together and snack together. This remains the case through about the junior year of … Continue reading ON THE SOFA: Can You Afford Your Friends?

ON THE SOFA: Facebook Shutdown; Personal Opening

Before I begin let me just say what a joy that was. To hop onto Instagram and WhatsApp and all the usual contacts I have been used to seeing in my feed just frozen. Felt like the first week of the lockdown in 2020 when we were told we would have to work from home. The joy I felt knowing I would not be listening to annoying complaints of certain coworkers whom I had allowed to turn me into their daily confessional. Well, I must admit I did the same so, the moral corrosion was mutual. But back to Facebook. … Continue reading ON THE SOFA: Facebook Shutdown; Personal Opening

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Xulaima on the Sofa: When we say Happiness, Do we mean JOY?

Do you know what it means to feel joy? When was the last time you felt it? Did it come with a memory or was it just a feeling? In that memory, is the accompaniment (person, place or thing) still accessible to you at this moment if you were willing? Now take that same memory and ask this question: At that time in your life when this feeling occurred were you also happy? Uhoh! Hold up. Where is this going? So, happiness in my view, comes with some level of coherence or alignment whereby we see or experience more than … Continue reading Xulaima on the Sofa: When we say Happiness, Do we mean JOY?